
Alyssa Shelasky is the New York editor of Grub Street at New York magazine, as well as the creator of the blog Apron Anxiety. Her first book, also titled Apron Anxiety (Three Rivers Press, May 2012), comes out this week. She has written for numerous publications including People, Us Weekly, Hamptons Style, Gotham, Self, Blackbook, TV Guide, the New York Post, CBS’s Watch magazine, and Glamour. We recently sat down with Alyssa to ask her a few questions about life, love, and food. Don’t miss the GIVEAWAY at the end of the post to enter for a chance to win an Ice Milk Apron.
The Recipe Club: In your memoir Apron Anxiety, you write about moving to DC with a chef boyfriend and feeling extremely “off balance” after a few months there. How did cooking get you back on track?
Alyssa Shelasky: I take full responsibility for this—because I moved there with no job and no plan of action—but I’ve never felt so isolated in my life. I had absolutely nothing to do and nowhere to be . . . which in New York sounds like paradise, actually. But in DC it made me nervous and scared. And lonely! Even though I’ve always needed a lot of “alone time” I had never experienced true loneliness until I lived there. When I started to cook, however, I had all these small projects that required human interaction—with butchers, cheesemongers, farmers’ market vendors, and eventually, neighbors on the stoop and new friends from the food world. Even at the grocery store I just felt . . . part of something. The basic act of making food gave me meaning and purpose at a time when I otherwise felt so small.
TRC: What was the first meal you made as a new cook? Can you share any tips from your experience for beginners?
AS: Macaroni ?n’ cheese by Martha Stewart, and to this day, it’s one of the best things I’ve ever made. It did not come easy though. I remember feeling like I was lost and stoned and totally out of my comfort zone. And I had no grace whatsoever. Everything spilled, there was a small fire, I had cream sauce in my eyelashes. I kept asking myself, “People think this is fun?!” But like all things, the only way out is through. I told myself to keep following the damn directions and see what happens. And I told myself that for the next meal and the next. After a few weeks, “following the damn directions” turned into, “Ooh, what should I cook today?” and that turned into “All I want to do is psychotically cook and bake!!!” It didn’t happen overnight, but once I found my own rhythm and discovered some recipes that really worked for me, the apron became part of my being.

TRC: What’s your go-to meal to make for a new boyfriend?
AS: A light pasta and a gorgeous radicchio salad. Toast some pine nuts or pistachios for the salad and it’s immediately sophisticated. You could even skip the salad and serve two big, voluptuous bowls of pasta with a dollop of ricotta cheese and fresh herbs on top. Understated is best. Add red wine, dark chocolate for dessert, and . . . done.
TRC: Have you had any major mishaps in the kitchen?
AS: Oh, I’ve wasted so much money on things I’ve thrown away because they’re inedible. Brownies are always problematic. Either I burn them or they just won’t cook. I just made a strawberry tart for a dinner party, and the insides were wet and slimy . . . such a bust. I’m pretty sure the meat loaf in my fridge right now might end up poisoning someone. So yeah. My mother sent my father’s entire family to the ER the first time she ever cooked them dinner. It happens!
TRC: Your book Apron Anxiety details several dinner parties. What are your best tips for planning a dinner party, and what would be on your ideal menu?
AS: Again, this is not the eighties. Avoid over-the-top! Start with a gorgeous hunk of cheese, some grapes, a few ramekins of interesting nuts. For dinner, make two to three plentiful dishes that are beautiful and delicious but extremely simple. A salad, a pasta, and a protein. Learn what’s in season—that’s great for some harmless snob effect, but it’s also going to make everything taste better. It just is. I tend to “plate” for my guests because I know I won’t skimp, and I can’t wait to see how all the colors and textures come together. Bake a chocolate cake or homemade cookies for dessert if you have time, but your guests will be just as happy with a big bowl of coffee ice cream and some homemade crème fraîche. Even if it’s Cool Whip, call it crème fraîche. Why not?

GIVEAWAY: To enter to win this beautiful Frosty Tin Marshmallows Apron from Ice Milk Aprons, simply comment on this post and let us know why you’d like to win. Or, send us a tweet at @TheRecipeClub and reference the giveaway. Deadline for entry is Friday, May 25, 2012.
Check out this sneak peek of Apron Anxiety for more hilarious stories from Alyssa Shelasky:
Apron Anxiety by Alyssa Shelasky – Excerpt





This gorgeous apron would be perfect to send my youngest daughter off to culinary school in the fall.
The perfect birthday gift for my kitchen phobic niece!
Aprons are like an added confidence. Of course this lovely apron would make any cook feel wonderful and confident while keeping ones clothes fresh. I truly can imagine the many meals made wearing this Ice Milk Apron! Oh the stories to be told…..
I would love to win because I actually need two of these aprons for the organic bakery that I am opening in June and I think these would be the perfect thing for us to wear!!! I love these aprons!
I first saw that apron in a little shop in Charleston, SC while on a girls weekend with some of my best friends from college. That was in March of last year. I spent the last year thinking about the apron from time to time, until this last month when I decided to try to see if I could find it online. I found the shop’s website, searched their blog, and finally found that *the* apron was an Ice Milk Apron– the very one you are giving away! So that’s why I would like to win it- I couldn’t get it out of my head!
What a great reminder it would be of an amazing time with some of my besties.
Because Ice Milk aprons are gorgeous.
My best friend is in love with this apron, and it would make the perfect birthday gift for her.
I’d like to win because I’ve been obsessed with these aprons ever since I laid eyes on them!
I would definitely give this to my little sister. She just graduated from Johnson & Wales and she’s opening her own catering business in Charleston SC. She would look fabulous in a Ice Milk Apron.
First saw this apron worn by the instructors of a cooking class I attended several years ago, and it was love at first sight! After perusing their website and discovering the heirloom kit, I fell in love even more! Now that I have a little girl of my own, I hope to pass on a passion for cooking as well as this apron, so that she can pass on to future generations =)
Ice Milk aprons are almost too lovely to wear while cooking, but I’d love to give it a try anyway!
I would just love this apron….it is so crisp looking …it would make a person feel so good cooking in the kitchen with this apron on…I would love to add this apron to my collection!! thanks
I would love to win, been wanting an Ice Milk apron forEVER!
I would love to win this apron! I have been a collector of cookbooks, old & new & reading like novels I love them. I used to let my kids choose interesting recipes then we tried them. I collect old Pyrex, utensils etc. things I can actually use. (my rolling pin was given to me by my Grandmother when I got engaged, it was a wedding gift to her from her mother.) I have fallen in love with aprons, old & new. Again, beautiful but usable! This one is the most beautiful new one I’ve ever seen. I would be proud to show it off- I just love it! Thank you for the chance.
I would simly LOVE the Ice Milk apron. Would be a collectible!
I’m not always the greatest cook, but with that apron I would look and feel like the greatest cook in all the world!
I would love the Ice Milk apron. It would be a collectible!
This apron looks so understated and pretty amazing- I’d love to win it and wear it!
This is a gorgeous apron that I would love to wear in my kitchen even if my cat would go after the ties.
Wearing. This apron would make me dance around the kitchen.
Well, this is absolutely gorgeous! I would love to be wearing it at our next cooking party! It couldn’t help but make everything I made taste just a little better.
Love culinary memoirs, they make fascinating reading! Can’t wait to read this one and pass it onto my mom, sister, daughter-in-law or sister-in-law since we all like to cook!
i so loved your story ,i moved to florida with my husband and 2 young boys found way to much time on my hands as they went into kindergarten and first grade ,started my own apron business,so i know where you are coming from ,and i have bought many aprons to see just what else is out there,you can check my site out if you’d like http://www.apronattitudes.com..but i just would like to win because iwould love to own one of these aprons,the name is fabulous btw…i’m really trying to learn to love to cook though ,so i need to read your book as well ,it sounds so real and funny ,but mostly a real real story ,thank you for being open and funny
mary
can you tell me how martha make mac and cheese/ it’s a staple here at the house ,but it’s always kraft !!!
Sounds like it would make a good summer read.
The beautiful apron represents love of cooking, fond memories which are passed down from generation to generation and soemthing special to cherish and treasure. Thanks.
I am an apron-wearer from way back, whether sturdy and utilitarian or the lovely final touch to an outfit for entertaining. I can just see the Ice Milk apron over trousers and a crisp blouse — or a sexy sheath. I’d love to add this to my apron wardrobe!
My sister would love this fancy apron. And, her birthday is June 29th!
I would love to read the book! THANKS!!
What an elegant apron. It would be perfect for hosting a dinner party.
i work @ grandma roses pizzareia & i think i would look in it.
First of all – lovely post and I want this book! Oh, and the apron! Your story makes me laugh because I am a “want to be” cook. I always wanted to be that girl who could create beautiful dishes and really…. I am not her but I still try. Your “less is more” for dinner parties was inspiring, I tend to think I need to go all out – to have just a few signature dishes makes me want to throw on an apron right now and invite invite invite!!!
LOL – I have the same problem as Alyssa with brownies. That is a gorgeous apron, and I am in need of an apron…well, just like everyone else, I’d love to win it.
i work @ grandma roses pizzareia & i think i would look cute wearing it.
The books sounds like fun. I’ll look for it. Love the apron.
Oh I love that she admits she makes mistakes. I want to win the apron (I don’t have one) but I’d love to read the book too. Sounds perfect!
I collect aprons + would love to get this dirty in my kitchen! thanks + congrats to Alyssa on her great book!
Presenting a special meal for family or friends in the fine looking apron would be a real pleasure. And, yes, over the top.
Love the story. Think most of us who have come to cooking have gone through some of the same experiences. As most fine cooks know a recipe is a suggestion and cooking is intuitive.
I can wear it when I go to culinary school.
I’ve never heard of Ice Milk aprons before, but love, love, love aprons. My Grandma always wore one, now its vintage and still so pretty. I always wear one while cooking or baking and would love to add this one to my humble collection. Thank you for the entry. Can’t wait to read your book! Have a wonderful evening.
Sandee
So far, I am enthralled with your writing and I enjoy using my old tattered apron,so I’d would enjoy reading your book while wearing a new apron that isn’t 42 years old! Thank you and please choose me! I’ve never won anything my whole life. Have a nice day!
Hello! And thank you for the opportunity to expand on my wardrobe;)
) of having to wear the same apron twice for my next get together:-) Wishing you all a lovely weekend!!!! Kindest regards, Teresa HD
Why I would like to win….., well to be perfectly honest, Aprons are my new wardrobe facination. Literally. I have become to see them as the new accessory! I have my one basic LBD, adorn with a new apron for at home entertaining, an viola’! A totally new look!!! Nobody notices that I am wearing the same dress…… they are all commenting on my new adorable “apron of the moment”:) soI ask please, please, please let me win this STUNNING apron – so as I am not forced to commit a fashion faux pas’ (
Wearing this apron would inspire me to cook some delicious meals.
I love aprons, and it makes me feel so industrious when I wear one, lol. I’ve gathered them from trade shows, travel trips, my grandma’s cupboard……..everywhere!!!
I want to win because I don’t own any aprons and all my clothes are always stained after I get done cooking.
I would like to wear the apron and have my own messy affairs in and out of the kitchen….
This is the most beautiful apron I have EVER laid eyes on!!!
I want to win because I don’t have any aprons.
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Just saw the book advertised on Goodreads and simulataneously received this email from Recipe Club. Who wouldn’t love an apron that looks good enough to wear to a cocktail party?
This sounds like the perfect summer book I have been looking for – nothing beats a fun Ice Milk apron to put me in the mood to bake and cook!
My sister and I always enjoyed cooking. She passed away a couple years ago and I haven’t cooked nearly as much. I understand your loneliness too – maybe I will start to be more purposeful in cooking better and more often. Thanks for the inspiration.
I would love to win because with this gorgeous apron I would actually look like the Diva my husband says that I am.
For some reason I am comforted by reading about others mishaps in the kitchen….
i’d love to win an apron because i just turned 50 and feel frumpy and am trying to ramp up my wardrobe and make myself look 50 and fabulous.
It’s lovely! Also it reminds me of my mother who always wore an apron.
I would like to do everything in this apron, and the book is great too.